I Don’t Want to be a Burden…

My husband is overwhelmed and I don’t want to burden my children.

I reached out for help because I realized my husband could not do it all.  It is our second marriage, I have kids and he has kids and there are 5 all together.  I was in and out of the hospital and rehab centers for over 3 months and I needed more and more care.  I was independently able to go up and down the stairs in our home and I was not able to walk around without help.  My husband was running up and the down the stairs taking care of meals and our dog and I knew he was not going to last. My kids all have young kids or full time jobs and live far away. We wanted to figure this out on our own.

We called, and Tova helped us to get a live in caregiver for 3 weeks to fill in the gap. The caregiver was able to help me with activities of daily living to give my husband a break. I loved my caregiver, she understand what my needs were and helped me to be as independent as possible and progress in my recovery.

Tova also coached us on working with the Home Health Agency to get all of the services we needed. We discussed with Tova about our finances so we could talk about long term plans. Tova understood that our primary goal was to age-in-place and maximize our independence for as long as possible. Tova was able to help us to figure out ways to live inside our means and simultaneously get the help we need, short and long term. We are so grateful for all of her guidance.—S.R.